Two Magic Words to Improve Your Confidence Right Now

What if there was something simple you could do each day to build your confidence? It’s a very small change, but it does take practice. Would you do it?

Two words you can commit to using every day that will, over time, without even realizing it, change how you see yourself and how others see you too.

Thank you. The next time someone compliments you, say, “Thank you.” In a society that teaches women, in particular, to be humble, not to brag or boast, fully accepting a compliment can feel uncomfortable or attention seeking. I want to assure you it is OK to acknowledge how great you are. You are remarkable, you are worth complimenting and you can enjoy the praise. When you deflect, “No! you are!” or argue, “oh, no I’m not” or worse yet, start to list all things that are wrong with you to invalidate the love you just received, you are telling yourself and those around you: I am not worthy. It is a tell-tale sign of insecurity. And maybe you are insecure, but this little “thank you” trick is going to help with that; I promise!

I understand that you may not truly believe what you are hearing from those around you, that is where the practice part comes in. Whether you can fully see what they see or not, say thank you anyway. A tiny dose of “fake it till you make it” can go a long way.

Let’s practice.

“Great shoes!” -- “Thank you.”

“You are an amazing cook.” -- “Thanks. I love to do it.”

“You are so gorgeous!” -- “Thank you so much.”

“You are seriously so smart.” -- “Thanks!”

Crazy, I know! But here is where it gets crazier. The more you do this, the better you will feel. The more you do this, the confident you will appear to those around you. My mom taught me this at a very young age. It is second nature for me now. Most times, I mean it when I say thank you. I love that I can receive a compliment, enjoy it, and go on with my day. Other times, I might not see what others see in me, but I can still accept it, and realize maybe they are noticing something wonderful in me that I should pause to appreciate as well.

Confidence takes practice, and is something we work on each day. It is powerful and contagious and we are all worthy of it. It is not braggadocious, or egocentric. It is valuing yourself and allowing others to value you as well.

So next time someone compliments you, pause, think about it, and give “thank you” a try. Notice how good it feels. You are on your way to a more confident you!

Editor’s Note: Just to clarify, if there was any confusion, this article is referring to compliments. Not harassment masquerading as a compliment. Topic for another day.